Ni ayahe mashusho utekereza iyo wunvise ijambo ryoroheje? Umuyaga woroshye? Amatungo akunda abana? Umugore uzwiho kugira neza.
Mugihe aya mashusho afata bimwe mubisobanuro byijambo, Bibiliya yerekana ubwitonzi muburyo buteye ubwoba kuruta uko dukunda kubitekereza. Kubakristo bahamagariwe “kwambara imitima yubugwaneza” (Abakolosayi 3:12), ni ngombwa kumva uburyo Bibiliya ikoresha iri jambo.
UBWITONZI BUTANGIRANA NA YESU
Imana iduhamagarira kwitonda kuko yitonda. Niwe ntangiriro yacu. Iyo twiboneye ubwitonzi kuri twe, twiga uburyo ateganya ko iyi mico itera imbere mubuzima bwacu.
Ni nako bimeze ku mbuto zose z’Umwuka. Turahamagariwe kubaho mu rukundo, umunezero, amahoro, kwihangana, ineza, ibyiza, ubudahemuka, ubwitonzi, no kwifata kuko aribyo Imana uwo ari we (Abagalatiya 5: 21-22). Izi nimbuto zumwuka kuko zisobanura imiterere yumwuka wera. Mugihe imitima yacu igenda imera nkiye, imbuto ze zisanzwe zikura muri twe.
Ahantu heza ho kureba uko ubwitonzi bw’Imana busa nubuzima bwa Yesu. Abaheburayo 1: 3 basobanura ko Yesu “agaragaza icyubahiro cyImana kandi akagaragaza imico yImana…” Muri we, ubwitonzi bukina muri nitty-gritty yubuzima bwa buri munsi. Nyamara rimwe na rimwe inkuru ya Jesus’ iteye urujijo. Turashobora kubona byoroshye ubwitonzi bwe mugihe yacecetse imbere yabamushinjaga, cyangwa igihe yinjiraga i Yerusalemu ku ndogobe aho kuba ifarashi yintambara. Ariko tuvuge iki ku gihe yise abayobozi b’amadini ubwoko bwa “bwa vipers” cyangwa yirukana abahindura amafaranga mu rusengero akoresheje ikiboko (Matayo 27: 12-14, 21: 4-5, 12: 34-35, Yohana 2: 15-17)?
UMUGANI WA 1: UBWITONZI BUTUMA NGIRA UMURYANGO
Mu cyongereza, ijambo ubwitonzi rimwe na rimwe ritwara ibisobanuro byo gutinyuka. Mubyukuri, verisiyo zimwe na zimwe za Bibiliya yacu yicyongereza zisobanura ijambo nkubwitonzi, byumvikana cyane nkintege nke — cyane cyane iyo bikoreshejwe mumagambo asanzwe nka “meek nkintama.”
Ibi birashobora kudutera kwibaza, niba mpisemo gutsimbataza ubwitonzi, ndeka ijwi ryanjye? Birasa no kubura ishyaka, guhitamo, cyangwa kwifuza?
Yesu witonda, wicisha bugufi yari ikindi kintu cyose uretse umuryango. Mugihe yogeje ibirenge byuwamuhemukiye rimwe na rimwe agahitamo guceceka, ntakibazo yagize cyo gushyiraho imipaka cyangwa kuvuga icyo atekereza. Ntamuntu wagenzuraga ibyo yavuze cyangwa ibyo yakoze. Kandi ntabwo yakoze gusa ubwitonzi igihe yagendaga kuri iyi si. Yasobanuye umutima we nk’ubwitonzi (Matayo 11:29).
YESU, INTANDARO YO KUBAHO KWE, YITONDA.
Buri gihe cyahoze ari umutima wa God’s — no mu Isezerano rya Kera. Umwanditsi wa zaburi Dawidi yashimye Imana ivuga, “Wanhaye kandi ingabo y’agakiza kawe, kandi ukuboko kwawe kw’iburyo kuranshigikiye; n’ubwitonzi bwawe bintera ” ikomeye (Zaburi 18:35).
Kuberako imico ya God’s ihamye (Malachi 3: 6), buri gikorwa cya Jesus’ cyaturutse kumutima we witonda. Yitonda igihe yemereraga kuba “yajanjaguwe kubera ibyaha byacu” ku musaraba (Yesaya 53: 5). Kandi yaritonda igihe yajugunyaga abahindura amafaranga umururumba mu nzu ya Se.
UBWITONZI, NK’UKO YESU ABIVUGA, BUGENZURWA N’IMBARAGA.
Igitekerezo kimwe gisobanura izi mbuto zumwuka nka “iburyo bwimbaraga nimbaraga. [Yirinda] ubukana budakenewe, nyamara utabangamiye cyangwa udatinze cyane gukoresha imbaraga zikenewe.” Ray Stedman andika ni “imbaraga nyazo, ariko ntabwo igomba kwigaragaza cyangwa kwerekana imbaraga zayo. Nibyo Umwami wacu yerekanye neza [mugihe] yivugiye ko ari ‘witonda kandi mubi mu mutima.’”
Binyuze kuri Jesus’ urugero, tubona ko Imana yitonda yigaragaza mu guceceka no gutinyuka. Mugihe twumva Umwuka we, tukaruhuka mubwitonzi kandi tukamwemerera kutuyobora no kuduha imbaraga, tuziga:
– Twizere Imana nk’Umurwanirira
– Fata abandi (natwe ubwacu) ineza n’icyubahiro
– Vuga ukuri mu rukundo
– Shigikira imipaka yubwenge
– Gukemura amakimbirane yubaka Umugani wa 2: Ubwitonzi ni ubw’abagore gusa
Nkumugore wamaranye ubuzima bwanjye mubakristu, nzi 1 Petero 3: 3-4 nkuko nzi izina ryanjye. Mubyukuri, iyi mirongo yakundaga gukora urwego rwibanze rwo gusobanukirwa umuhamagaro wImana wo kwitonda — “Ntugahangayikishijwe nubwiza bwinyuma bwimisatsi myiza, imitako ihenze, cyangwa imyenda myiza. Ugomba kwiyambika ubusa aho kugira ubwiza buturuka imbere, ubwiza butajegajega bwumwuka witonda kandi utuje, ufite agaciro gakomeye kuri God” (NLT).
Igihe Imana yafataga umubiri, yaje iwacu nkumuntu — aracyari Imana yuzuye, ubu nawe ni umuntu wuzuye. Mubisobanuro bye bwite, kimwe n’imikoranire ye n’abantu, Yesu yahishuye umutima we witonda. Niba Imana Umwana irangwa n’ubwitonzi, ntibishobora kuba imico ateganya cyane cyane kubagore.
Birashimishije kandi kumenya ko 1 Petero 3: 4 (hejuru) nurugero rwonyine aho guhamagarira ubwitonzi bihabwa abagore byumwihariko. Mu bindi bice, abakristu muri rusange (cyangwa abayobozi b’amatorero) bahamagariwe kwerekana iyi mico.
“Bavandimwe na bashiki bacu, niba umuntu yafatiwe mu cyaha, ubana na Mwuka ugomba kugarura uwo muntu witonze. Ariko wirebere, cyangwa nawe ushobora kugeragezwa ” (Abagalatiya 6: 1).
“Wicishe bugufi rwose kandi witonda; ihangane, wihangane murukundo” (Abefeso 4: 2).
“Kubwibyo, nkuko Imana yahisemo abantu, abera kandi bakundwa cyane, wambare impuhwe, ineza, kwicisha bugufi, ubwitonzi no kwihangana” (Abakolosayi 3:12).
Ubwitonzi nicyifuzo cyImana kubantu bose bakurikira Yesu.
UMUGANI WA 3: UBWITONZI BUZA MUBURYO BUSANZWE KUBANTU BAMWE
Nakundaga gutekereza ko mfite ubwitonzi hasi. Nkumuntu usanzwe utuje, udahanganye, natekereje ko ubwitonzi buri mumico yanjye. Uko niga Bibiliya, nubwo, niko mbona ko ntamuntu numwe usanzwe witonda.
Marg Maczka avuga ko kuba “witonda ntaho bihuriye no kugira isoni, demure, pasiporo, cyangwa intege nke. Ahubwo, bikubiyemo kwifata no kwicisha bugufi mugihe ukorana nabandi. Harimo kandi gufatanya nakazi ka Roho Mutagatifu.”
Kubantu bakomeye kandi bayobowe, ubwitonzi nyabwo nigikorwa cyubuntu bwImana. HELPS Ijambo-ubushakashatsi risobanura ko ubwitonzi bwa Bibiliya “ari imbuto (ibicuruzwa) byumwuka wera…Ntabwo arikintu cyagezweho numuntu (cyangwa biologiya gusa).”
Ubwitonzi muri Yesu’ Ubuzima
Mu mayobera bigoye kubyumva, Yesu yerekanye uburyo bumwe bwo kwishingikiriza ku Mana yita buri wese muri twe.
“Rero, Yesu yabisobanuye, ‘Ndakubwiza ukuri, Umwana ntacyo ashobora gukora wenyine. Akora gusa ibyo abona Data akora. Ibyo se akora byose, umuhungu akora na’” (Yohana 5:19).
Yashakishije ubuyobozi bwa Padiri binyuze mu masengesho. Yemeye ubushake bwa Padiri mu busitani bwa Getsemani. Yavuze ibyo yumvise kuri Data araceceka igihe Data yashakaga ko aceceka. Umugani wa 4: Ubwitonzi Kurwanya Uburakari
Biroroshye gutekereza uburakari nkibibi, kwibwira ko tutagomba na rimwe kumva tubabajwe nabantu cyangwa ibihe bidukikije. Nyamara Abefeso 4:26 iratwigisha birashoboka kurakara nta gucumura: “Ntugacumura ureka uburakari bukugenzura. Ntureke ngo izuba rimanuke mugihe uracyarakaye.”
Kumva uburakari ntabwo ari icyaha. Kimwe n’andi marangamutima yose, ni igice cyo kuba umuntu, cyo kwishushanya n’Imana nayo igira amarangamutima. Iyo imipaka yarenze cyangwa amasezerano acitse, iyo gutenguha kwiyongereye cyangwa inzozi zipfuye, iyo amakimbirane abangamiye gahunda zacu zateguwe neza, birasanzwe ko twumva turakaye. Uburakari ntabwo butandukanye nubwitonzi.
Mubyukuri, ubwitonzi ni “inzira yo hagati yo kurakara, guhagarara hagati yintagondwa ebyiri, kurakara nta mpamvu no kutarakara na gato. Kubwibyo, [ubwitonzi] burakara mugihe gikwiye, muburyo bukwiye, kandi kubwimpamvu iboneye” (Imfashanyo zamagambo yo mu Isezerano Rishya muri Bibiliya Yibanze Yiga Bibiliya).
UBWITONZI MUBUZIMA BWA JESUS’
Yesu yagaragaje uburakari ubwo yagendaga ku isi yacu. Igihe kimwe, yahamagaye abantu bamwe “batizera kandi bononekaye,” hanyuma arabaza ati, “Ngomba kwihanganira igihe kingana iki?” (Matayo 17:17).
Ikindi gihe, mu gihe abamunenga barebaga impamvu yo kumuciraho iteka, Yesu “yabarebaga hirya no hino afite uburakari kandi [ababajwe cyane n’imitima yabo yinangiye” (Mariko 3:5a). Amaze gusoma uko ibintu bimeze, yakoze igitangaza nyine bizeye ko azabikora. Ntiyatinye urwango rwabo, kandi ntiyabangaga. Ahubwo “…Yasize urubanza rwe mumaboko yImana, ihora icira urubanza rwose ” (1 Petero 2:23b).
Numutima witonda, Yesu yabayeho “inzira yo hagati mukurakara.” Kandi afite ubushake, abinyujije mu Mwuka we, kutwigisha kubikora.
Araduhamagarira gutunganya amarangamutima yacu. Mu masengesho, dushobora kuvuga ibyiyumvo byacu, tukamugaragariza uburakari, tukamubwira neza icyo bigenda mubitekerezo byacu. Noneho mu guceceka gukurikira, araduhamagara ngo twumve ijwi rye rituje, rito rivuga mu mitima yacu ridufasha gutandukanya amarangamutima yacu, kuvugurura ibitekerezo byacu n’ibitekerezo bye, no kutwigisha kubaho witonze muri buri kibazo duhura nacyo.
Mu bumuntu bwe, Yesu yishingikirije ku Mana kuyobora ubuzima bwe n’umurimo we.
Mu buryo nk’ubwo, araduhamagarira gufatanya n’umurimo w’Umwuka we utuye. Kuri buri bwoko bwimiterere – introverts na extroverts – Umwuka Wera wenyine arashobora gutsimbataza ubwitonzi mumitima yacu kandi akabaho imbaraga ze zoroheje binyuze muri twe.